Let’s talk about seizing the moment. I’ve always been the type to jump right in to things and work feverishly to get them done. This mentality comes with its fair share of wins, but it has also resulted in some questionable decisions…
Like the time I almost bought a used city bus. Blogging is fun because your thoughts become permanent, so check out how I justified it in my post in 2014. In the end, I lost $500 on a deposit, but luckily I didn’t end up with the bus.
My Carpe Diem mentality also made me the proud owner of 22 vintage Hartmann briefcases… I was really good at winning them on eBay. The plan in my head worked out because I was going to sell the briefcases out of my mobile bus!! It could’ve all come together, but instead I spent a few thousand for this “experience”.
The ideas were there, but Carpe Diem was a little short-sighted and new instant gratification mechanisms like eBay make it all too easy to Carpe Diem.
Therefore, I must practice Carpe Tarda Vita which based on my google translation means “seize the slow life”, but if you know Latin I probably sound like Ivanka Trump sending out “Chinese Proverbs”:
“Those who say it can not be done, should not interrupt those doing it.” -Chinese Proverb
— Ivanka Trump (@IvankaTrump) June 11, 2018
Apparently, not many people believe that’s actually a Chinese proverb
"Anything sounds more important with quotation marks and a generic Chinese person saying it." -Chinese Proverb https://t.co/R5oJVyJ63w
— Jenny Yang 👲🏼👲🏼👲🏼 (@jennyyangtv) June 12, 2018
Carpe Tarda Vita will become especially important as we start our new life journey in small-town Utah (oh yeah, I need to update you on this later). We’re debating if we want to buy property, start a new business or just hang out for a while. There are lots of opportunities to rush into now, but patience will be the better long term play.
As with most of my writing, I simply drag you along to help me work through problems in my own head. Therefore, I’ve found three examples that support Carpe Tarda Vita, all of which come from people with wisdom gained through experience.
1. The first is from Warren Buffet, the guy who’s investment philosophy I try to follow (until I Carpe Diem and try to day trade):
“The stock market is a device for transferring money from the impatient to the patient.”
So true. Investing is a major psychological test that burns those who want to get rich quick and rewards long term investors, but the quote is highly relevant to life. The impatient are much more likely to make bad decisions and rush into things (trust me, I know this).
2. Next is from T. Boone Pickens, oil man turned corporate raider turned philanthropist and Twitter sage:
Negotiating advice 101. When you want to make a deal real bad you will make a really bad deal. #SingaporeSummit
— T. Boone Pickens (@boonepickens) June 11, 2018
My biggest challenge in our new town is I want to make a deal real bad… so I need to Carpe Tarda Vita and slow the hell down.
3. The last wisdom comes from Leo Tolstoy – whose books I actually have been reading so I can sound smart. The General who’s fighting Napoleon in War and Peace is a patient older gentleman whose motto is, “Patience and Time”. There are numerous instances in the book where he uses this tactic for his success — I guess you just have to trust me on that one since Tolstoy wasn’t on Twitter.
Now, I only need to reconcile this thought with my others around “times goes by so fast“! Thankfully, I’m not at it alone as left to my own devices I’d own a city bus, 100 briefcases, a dozen Airstreams and no telling what else. My wife is the battle-hardened balancer, but I’m lucky to have wise family members and friends too.
What about you, are you a “Carpe Diem-er” or a “Carpe Tarda Vita-er”?