What’s your BREAK FREE story?

January 28, 2013 — 25 Comments

When many people hear the term “BREAK FREE”, their mind instantly goes to the person who quits their job because their boss was hassling them, so they can then proceed to sell all of their stuff and move to Mexico to sip Mai Tai’s and teach surfing to South American bombshells… just what you were thinking, huh?  In reality – this is the guy they’d actually be teaching…

Surfing lessons

While some people have that as their goal, most of us will have a much mellower picture.  It could be to retire early, have one spouse quit their job so they can stay home with the kids, or simply becoming debt free.

I’ll talk about our BREAK FREE story next week, but let’s talk about your’s this week.  What do you want more than anything that’ll cause you to intensely focus on a goal and make sacrifices to help you get their faster?  Do you feel like you can fully pursue the mission you’re meant to pursue?

If not, welcome to the crowd!  If so, you’re one of the lucky one’s who has figured it out.  Many of us struggle to figure out what our “purpose” is outside of keeping up with the Kardashians or Honey Boo Boo.

Many lives have a mystical sense, but not everyone reads it right.  More often than not it is given to us in cryptic form, and when we fail to decipher it, we despair because our lives seem meaningless.  The secret of a great life is often a man’s success in deciphering the mysterious symbols vouchsafed to him, understanding them and so learning to walk in the true path.  – Oz Guinness

I love this quote because it give us comfort when we struggle to figure out what we’re meant to do.  It’s not an easy process and many people will spend their entire lives trying to figure it out.  But we must take comfort because as Soren Kierkegaard said, “Life is lived forward but understood backwards.”

You’re meant to do more than just work to pay your bills each month.  You have a unique set of skills and qualities that push you in a certain direction – maybe you already have a battle cry.  In the end, our unique talents are meant for the benefit of others so we’re not only hurting ourselves when we don’t fully explore them, we’re hurting them.

The good news is many people are doing a job they love and other’s have found a way to use their job as a tool to pursue what they love.  Here are the final results from last week’s poll when I asked if people love their jobs:

Do you love your job_Poll

So there’s hope!  The important thing is to get started on finding what you love while you take control of your money now.  We’ll talk about finding what you love later.

So why do you want to BREAK FREE?  If you’ve already done it or know what you want to do, please enlighten us in the comments section!  If you’re afraid to “make it public”, shoot me an email as I’d love to see it.  Soon I’ll start featuring BREAK FREE stories each month, so I’d love to start with you!

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25 responses to What’s your BREAK FREE story?

  1. Great post! I guess I really don’t know what I want to break free to do just yet still trying to figure that out.

    • Thanks Betty! Most people don’t know what exactly they want to do, so don’t be hard on yourself. The important part is to start taking control of your money while you figure out what you do want to do.

  2. I decided to break free this year. Last year I was working part time around my business because I needed the steady income to help pay bills and other things. Now I do what I love to do full time and in two years I hope to tell you a similar story to your own.

    • Gerald – more power to you! Steady income is definitely an important thing while you try to start the “new” thing… it just increases your odds of winning that much more.

  3. I am one who loves my job. I am well past normal retirement age, but still work full time. I do take an occasional cruise to relax and get away.

    • Stan – that’s really great to hear. At this point do you even call it a job anymore? Sounds more like a hobby that you enjoy doing and happen to get paid to do!

  4. I am working on ‘breaking free’. Steps – eliminate one mortgage, eliminate cable TV bill, throttle back my technology addiction. Getting there. You are my inspiration! 🙂

    • Cheryl – it’s so exciting to watch you guys make the sacrifices to pursue this. Also, I’m not your inspiration, your goal is your inspiration.. I just want to help you get there!

  5. I am working on breaking free with just the mortgage to go. My goal is to pay off the mortgage while developing my side business enough that I can leave my present job and move to a warmer year-round climate (I hate the cold!). Although I’ve done some work on the side, including a lot of grant writing for free, in the past several years, I just officially started the business this month. I am so excited about the possibilities! This blog is an encouragement to me and am looking forward to reading your posts and the comments made by others.

    • Pam – that’s so awesome the mortgage is the last thing to kill and you’re already working on your business! I look forward to hearing your updates as your business takes off and you take off to a warmer climate :).

      I always look forward to comments, but I’m learning so much from everyone on this post… I’m honored to have such smart and innovative commenters on my blog.

  6. I believe that it’s a never ending challenge to break free. We constrain ourselves. Our job is to find a way to break free of our self imposed restraints. Just when we think we have it down there is something that pops up that needs attending to. The reality is life is a set of experiences both expected and unexpected. Breaking free of the worry and frustration of whether we are moving in the right direction is a constant. My constant is finding balance and in that, peace, when it isn’t always there. :-).

    • Susan – such a great point and similar to what Patrick mentioned below. We always seem to “find something wrong” even when we get to the next level. I’m really glad you mentioned the “finding balance” piece… I’ll have to think more about that.

  7. We are striving to break free. I hear from those looking in that I am living the dream (I mean seriously, I spend most of my time sampling and talking about beer). But that is only half the dream. My wife is still working hard to help support my pursuits. So I have to work hard to reach a point where she can find her half of the freedom we hope to achieve.

    • Wow, this is exciting stuff Jon. If you can pull off your dream and make enough money while doing it, you’ve proven the concept that we can pursue what we love and make money off of it. I have no doubt you can do it and look forward to watching you progress on your blog.

  8. Is it odd that my idea of breaking free keeps changing? Finance, employment, traveling.

    I like the quote “Life is lived forward but understood backwards.”

    • Haha, I don’t think so… I’m sure all of our definitions change over time as we experience new things and enter different stages in life. I know mine has definitely changed a few times already.

  9. I love it when you talk about breaking free. Funny thing is, there was a time I wanted to break free from my job. But then, I started using it as a tool, like you said, and I started caring about it a lot more. Recently, I was added responsibility to shooting, editing and producing videos for my workplace, and since then, things have really been quite exciting. The last couple of weeks I’ve spent time at home, working from home on the videos, and it has shown me that no matter what I do, I know I would need to be out and about amongst people during the day. So–that’s figured out (that was just another way I’ve used my job as a tool). So, the next thing I’d like to break free from, is writing manuals. So that, at my place of work, all I would get to do is the video. That actually may be on the horizon, and if that’s the case, I would be stoked! I’ll keep you posted of course, and I can’t wait to hear more of YOUR story about breaking free! 🙂

    • Bethany – this is such an awesome comment. We’re a lot alike in our need to be social and our goals of helping/motivating other people. It sounds like you’re knocking it out of the park with your current job.. you probably have those people wondering why you’re so happy with work now!

  10. Excellent, thoughtful post. It’s sad how many people hate their jobs but feel chained to them because of family and financial obligations. That’s why it’s so important to live within your means, as you, yourself, learned. I don’t know that it’s possible to entirely break free and do what we want because our lives are intertwined with people with love and our responsibilities towards them. But it’s a goal to strive for.

    • Jeanette – you’re so right, and I’m still surprised to see that the results of the poll showing so many people love their work now! I think it’s definitely anomaly with the type of people who are bloggers… very motivated and out searching for what they love.

  11. I’m recently graduated from college and working in my first full time position right now. Its not exactly what I think I want to be doing and know that it will probably take me a few more different positions to figure out exactly where my optimal career choice is. Of course one day I also want to be a wife and mother. So right now I guess my “breaking free” is to find my perfect career position and become financially stable. Love the quote.

    • Kelly – it’s great you’re already thinking of this stuff now. I had to go into debt while working full time without direction before I realized I needed a plan! The important thing is you’re doing the right thing now by finding something you can do well in and setting yourself up financially. Plus, your blog looks great so that’s another possible direction!

  12. Even though I loved teaching, I had to “break free” from the classroom. Doing so hit me like a ton of bricks, but it was the only way to take the plunge and start freelancing and really working on my creative writing. What I learned most from all the time I spent teaching is how important it is to seek balance in life, and that job didn’t leave time to pursue my passion for writing. No one situation defines any of us, but learning how to make a situation work to our advantage is so difficult.

    • Jeri – I always struggle with that… is it better to dive headfirst into your new thing or try to ease into it? Each have their upsides and downsides, but if most people are comfortable enough in their full time job, they’ll never leave it. It takes something else to push them. It’s so awesome you’ve made it work!

  13. I can never seem to get these signs right. I would really love to be better at interpreting them so they can point me in the right direction.
    I wish I was sharing how I broke free, rather than searching for ways to break free of the many things on my list….

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